You don’t need to agree with or endorse this relationship, but you may have to accept it.DEAR AMY: I am a 61-year-old happily married woman with two grown sons.He doesn’t seem very interested in me or my life, but if he is good to you, then I’m happy about that.”I hope you can find a way to establish a separate peace, understanding that — despite his fine opinion of himself — your brother is flawed.You don’t need to be friends, but you are siblings.DEAR AMY: I recently learned that my younger sister is dating a married man. Of course, he claims that he was never in love with his wife, etc. She portrays him as the victim, trapped in an unhappy marriage. Her friends have met him and their co-workers know about the relationship.My sister claims that he recently told his wife he wants a divorce.
It would be easiest for you if you could find a detached and cordial way to communicate with him, without really caring too much what he thinks of himself — or you.
Several years ago I took an early retirement in order to be available to my recently widowed mother.
I have one brother who is also married with his own family.
I have a very hard time believing or respecting anyone that would disrespect their marriage so outwardly.
My sister has stood by me through all of my many past relationships and trials, and now she wants me to not judge her, and to respect her decision to move forward and continue in this relationship.
I believe that this is unethical.” You don’t have intimate knowledge about this man’s marriage (she doesn’t, either). Don’t speculate about the future (the future is her problem).