Sex is supposed to hidden and secret and private — and I think that’s really damaging. You can ask your parents, but that can get hella awkward right quick, especially after the age of like, 13.That’s why I think we should all talk about sex more with friends. ” — and most people have at some point or another — then you know what I’m talking about. I find that for adults the best thing we can do is talk about sex with our friends."I think talking about sex with your friends can help normalize interests and behaviors and it can also spark your imagination," Sarah Watson, licensed professional counselor and sex therapist, tells Bustle.One of my favorite sex-positive business women, Cindy Gallop, founder of Make Love Not Porn (NSFW), talks all the time about how so many of our society’s issues — especially around rape, sexual assault, bad sex, and rape culture — can be blamed on the fact that we just don’t talk about sex. Victim-blaming, slut-shaming, and rape culture in general all grow out of the fact that we carry so much shame about sex. Sometimes it can be hard to find intimacy with your friends as an adult, partly because there aren’t as many things to bond over as there were when we were younger.Talking openly and freely about sex and sexuality is the best way that I’ve found to fight that and talking with your friends is a great place to start. Dishing about your sex life with your friends really can be as fun as it looked on Sex in the City. But sex is something that most adults do and talking about it is an excellent way to bond.However, a recent Danish study reported that Danish girls were developing breasts at an earlier age than they were 15 years ago.(4) The study found that the onset of puberty (as measured by breast development) dropped from a mean age of 10.9 years in 1991 to 9.9 years in 2006.
Adolescent sexuality encompasses multiple factors, such as developing intimate partnerships, gender identity, sexual orientation, religion, and culture.When you talk to your friends about sex, you might realize that, for example, the fact that your partner doesn’t make an effort to give you an orgasm isn’t cool.Or that there’s really only a few days per month that you can get pregnant.The possibilities for sexual things you can do are practically limitless and while you might see something new in porn, friends are a way better source for learning about new things.My colleague Kathleen Burdo put it succinctly: “You realize that your body sh*t is normal and your friends can reinforce your awesome hotness.”Here’s the thing about sex: It’s very physical. When you talk about sex openly, you’ll inevitably get into some body talk.
Previous norms for puberty were based on a study of fewer than 200 girls in a British orphanage in the 1960s.