They desperately crave love, but at the same time they are terrified of intimacy. This can be done without acting out (suffering in silence) or by pursuing the person they are in love with. This kind of addiction feeds on fantasies and illusions. Saboteurs are ALAs who destroy relationships when they start to get serious or at whatever point their fear of intimacy comes up.
This can be anytime—before the first date, after the first date, after sex, after the subject of commitment comes up—whenever.
Therefore, love addiction and codependency seemed to be one in the same.
Even if their partner batters them, and they are in danger, they cannot let go. This can be summed up as “I hate you don’t leave me.”Narcissistic Love Addicts: NLAs use dominance, seduction and withholding to control their partners.
Unlike codependents, who accept a lot of discomfort, narcissists won’t put up with anything that interferes with their happiness.
Relationship Addicts: RAs, unlike other love addicts, are no longer in love with their partners but still cannot let go.
Usually, they are so unhappy that the relationship affects their health, spirit and emotional well being. They do not want to hurt or abandon their partners.
Many professionals have rejected the idea that narcissists can be love addicts.