"There's a big difference between a seventh-grader and a ninth-grader when it comes to experimentation," Gowen says.
By the time they're in high school, guys may have gone a lot further than you're ready to go.
One very important question you need to ask yourself is whether this person is safe for you to date.
"Just because a girl looks like she's 16 when she's only 11, it doesn't mean that psychologically or emotionally she's ready to date older boys...
they are so much more skilled at this dating game than she would be, and they can manipulate her and hurt her," says Laura Choate, Ed D, a licensed professional counselor, associate professor of counselor education at Louisiana State University, and author of the book, Girls' and Women's Wellness: Contemporary Counseling Issues and Interventions.
As a general rule, never do this, in any way, ever, til death.
The reason is because you’ll come off like every other horn dog guy.
Even if it seems like everyone around you has paired off, you want to go out with someone for the right reason -- because you really like that person. You also want to be with someone who will treat you right, she says. One clue is the way they treat their friends, teachers, and parents.