Think of it as more of a warning, than a “hammer and judge.” This article is written from a long-distance perspective, with only ONE story to back it.Of course there are other situations that may vary. The heart behind this article is to bring light to a topic rarely talked about, and open the inter-webs for healthy discussion on the matter. While Audrey and I were weathering our long-distance relationship and growing further apart, I was hanging out with this girl almost every day, and we were inevitably growing closer together.For Audrey and I, our boundary is that we don’t hang out alone with anyone of the opposite sex. If so, then don’t make room for relationships that will cause your spouse to doubt, feel jealous, compare themselves, or even feel like they are missing out.if one of us has respectfully asked the other not to. Don’t send that completely innocent text about “work stuff” after hours.When you find yourself torn between where you should spend your effort and energy, the answer is likely your spouse.
And once you are married, your wife is the most important relationship you have besides your relationship with the Lord.If your deepest desire is to have a strong, healthy, covenant, marriage that is #beating50percent, then you have to be willing to align your strongest desires with your deepest desires. But I was dating to marry, and if Audrey was going to be my wife, then I needed to learn an important lesson So I put myself in Audrey’s shoes, and thought to myself, “What if Audrey had a guy friend who was becoming her best friend, and it wasn’t me…” I hated the thought. Within marriage that would be so wrong it’s insane. I’ve heard people say that being able to have opposite-sex friends is a sign of a healthy relationship. In my opinion, this viewpoint is naive and selfish.I was in love with Audrey and she knew that, this girl was just my who I cared about deeply. Marriages have “ups” and “downs.” During an “up” season, where everything is bright and dandy, it might be easier to allow a seemingly harmless opposite-sex relationship to exist, even if it frustrates your spouse a little bit.But what I am saying is, the unavoidable progression of relationships is something that is far to easily ignored, for how dangerous they can be.If ignored and dismissed for too long, you’ll be in a relationship too deep to stop.
Although my deepest desire was to have a healthy relationship with Audrey that was progressing towards marriage, my strongest desire was to remain friends with this girl.