Even after he walked down the aisle and had hot crazy monkey sex on his honeymoon, he was seeing it as the culmination of the Girl Friend Experience, not its death throes. Your husband does want to have sex, and he does want to have sex with you, and yes, he wants it to be an intimate, deep, emotional, soul-fulfilling experience. That's the kind of sex that keeps your marriage stable, reminds you of why you put up with each others' shit, and makes you appreciate the wonders of marital sex. often an experience that wives feel they have grown beyond with maturity and matrimony. Why can't he be satisfied with what you have to offer?
But then there's the deep, burning desire within the heart of every man to have the GFE . He knows how you feel about him, after all -- you married him, didn't you? Because you're offering him the opportunity to make love with his Wife.
First, consider your husband's position: Once upon a time, he met a really cute girl (you), who for whatever reason laughed at his jokes and made eyes at him and then unexpectedly did that thing in that place and it blew his freaking mind enough so he didn't hesitate to call you.
After that, he was in a dopamine-soaked haze, dripping with testosterone and starlight whenever the image of your face came to mind.
The Girl Friend Experience is just that: where a man pays a prostitute to act and behave the same way a new girlfriend does in the early-and-horny stage of infatuation.
After the financial arrangement has been satisfied, then for the duration of the appointment the professional showers the client with physical affection -- hugging, kissing, holding hands, praising him, asking him about himself, and acting utterly fascinated by everything that falls out of their client's mouths -- no matter how banal. All of those things are part-and-parcel of the infatuation stage of a relationship as it culminates with sex.
It's not often that I write about "girl Game", and it doesn't come up a lot in marriage blogs.
At the basis of that attitude was sex -- a very specific kind of sex -- the kind of sex that changes a man's life. From a female perspective it's easy to see why being a man's wife means so much more than being a mere girlfriend. Being a Wife means more than being a girlfriend -- would your girlfriend know your Social Security number? From a female perspective, being a Wife is a huge, huge responsibility, with sex being just one of many important facets to cover.
But while you were picking out names for your future children, he was picking out colors for future slutty underwear and crazy places you could get away with "doing it".
Even if he was thinking about you as his future wife, that was only after a long and torrid period as his hot, sexy, adventurous girlfriend.
Sometimes there's penetrative sex later in an appointment, but the highlight of the experience is the way the woman leads her temporary boyfriend over to the couch, undresses him, and then crawls between his legs for an extended period of pure and unadulterated penis worship. You feel like someone really thinks you're worth a damn, even if you had to pay her to think it.
Now, this is the part that freaks some wives out: why would a dude pay up to 0 for a handjob, something he could ostensibly do himself, or even get at home? For 0 a woman would expect a full day at the spa, lunch AND sex, not an intense 90 minute session in a sleazy hotel room. it's the acceptance and emotional affirmation provided on the way to the orgasm. And if that gives a dude enough juice to go home and royally take his wife to Pound Town, then if nothing else you can ascertain that something important happened during his GFE, something sexually and psychologically empowering.