I have rarely seen femme gay men portrayed as sexually empowered subjects – when we see them in the media, they are often eunuchs, or serve as comic relief.
Now I’m not saying that desiring a man who is masculine or who enjoys football is a problem.
Homosexuality and gay sex are legal in Indonesia - except in conservative Aceh province, which is ruled by Islamic law - but same-sex relationships are widely frowned upon and public displays of affection between gay couples almost unheard of.
In Aceh at the weekend, police forcibly cut the hair of a group of transgender women and made them wear male clothing, sparking protests from rights groups.
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There are heartbreaking moments, like when both men confess to having been depressed because of repressing their sexuality for so long in their lives.For my first few years dating men, I used to clean off any trace of nail polish before a date, and if a guy was coming over, I would stuff away my neon wigs in a very literal closet – in fact, it was only late last year that I put a photo of myself in make-up on Tinder (and this has led to drastically fewer matches).And it pains me to admit that in my early 20s, I predominately chased white straight men, no doubt rooted in my desire to be accepted by the normative institution that rejected me my whole life. White cisgender masculinity is celebrated as the ultimate triumph in many gay spaces, coming with it a rejection of non-conformism in our communities. After I watched the date in question, I felt upset, frustrated, but also unsurprised.On the episode, both men are white, cisgender and masculine presenting.
It’s telling that possibly the most celebrated gay male couple mass-culturally is Tom Daley and Dustin Lance, a fairytale picture of gay men who have won by the sign posts of heteronormative idealism– one is an Olympian, the other a Hollywood veteran, both are white, cisgender, masculine, wealthy, they’re married and expecting children.