“There’s a sort of New Age chivalry about that.” Unfortunately, the rule seems even less clear for those in the LGBT community, says Morningside Heights resident and comedian Stephanie Foltz, who is bisexual.
Foltz, 29, says it can be tricky, but that gender norms are still at play.
While some might lament the loss of anonymity, Manley adds that this isn’t always such a bad thing.“You have to be really clear on what you want,” says Lindsay Chrisler, a professional dating coach based in Hell’s Kitchen. “Everything goes down over text now, especially between millennials,” Manley says.Just don’t overdo it, and remember that humor and tone don’t always come through in a text.“I used to say, ‘Don’t let ideology get in the way of love,’ [but] I think when people meet other people, they want to know what their values and lifestyles are,” she says.And once people started broaching politics, she says, other taboos, such as keeping past relationships to yourself, began to get ditched too.
“It’s sort of like the Wild West out there,” says Alex Manley, dating and sex editor at Ask