But it didn't end there, he kept 'relating' to what he had to go through with their exs in subsequent dates (yep, i know, slow).
I told him that I was getting a bit bored of listening to his stories, and he responded that he was only 'trying to let me know where he was coming from' .....????
Meeting people, being set up, getting a date, finding new people at activities or dances, work, night clubs, bars all happens unless you do not allow that to happen or you stay home all day and night on the computer or hiding.
I enjoy my company a lot, have hobbies and aspirations, and I don't really feel like compromising that much or making a relationship into too much work (it never was before).
Maybe it has more to do with life experience than gender, I think. I personally feel what Catherine Hepburn said once: men and women should live in separate places and visit each other, frequently or occasionally.
My experience is that, if he keeps talking over and over about his ex in our first date, chances are he is not over her, and the unfinished business can be either good or bad, but I am not interested. I am handicapped so there goes a red flag..think I need them to take care of me..I have been doing it on my own since 03 when I lost the leg and can do just fine but it would be nice to find someone to enjoy good times with....... I am a BBW..I am honest even on this NET....hoping someday a guy will look beyond the physical disabilities and look to the real me...
I am 53yo WAS married 27yrs and still do not know what love or romance is.I am very curious.There are two ways to look at this Poor me is one of them WOW is the other At our age we have Not as many responsibilities Freedom to do most things Experience Knowledge Younger people usually don't have these advantages Just go out and get what you want If the gentlemen in your area are not up to the standard you want, find one somewhere else who is Travel is so cheap and easy and Meeting people is easy Confidence is a very underated thing If you have confidence in yourself, you can do most things This confidence also seems to be an attractant to members of the opposite sex Just start to believe you are going to meet someone and you will...
My experience tells me that those partners will do a lot of transference, apart from being dead boring and even frustrating.