WAY has events and gatherings across the country – giving members the chance to meet up with other people who understand exactly what you’re going through.It’s often really helpful to meet with people who are not in couples – especially at the weekends, which can be especially hard when you’re on your own.Some people might even begin to entertain the idea of dating again.Others might never feel like falling in love again after they've been widowed.After the first few months in survival mode, you do begin to feel like living again. For others it can take ten years before they feel any sense of happiness.The pain of bereavement is always there – like a dull ache, but many WAY members have turned their lives around in surprising ways after their partner has died.But other people feel the need get out there and meet anew partner. Emotionally you might still be feeling very vulnerable. An emotional rejection can plunge you back into the depths of despair.So dating after you've been widowed is something to be treated with extreme caution.
Although I decided to wear my wedding ring for a year after his death (as a respectful gesture to Frank and to keep unwanted male attention at bay), six months in, I felt ready to date.
But then along comes the first anniversary like an enormous boulder to rub salt into the wound that is probably just beginning to heal.
And as you tip into the second year, the daily grind can be even more difficult to bear –making you even more painfully aware of how much your miss your partner being around. But slowly, imperceptibly, each day will start to get a little bit easier.
Some days you might even wake up and begin to feel happy again.
Eventually, you might find yourself starting to look forward rather than dwelling on the past.