“So I did what a lot of marginalized people do—I pretended I wasn’t different.” Related: By the time she was ready to be sexually active, Trace was no longer in a wheelchair.
But she was using two canes to walk, and still had to contend with bladder and bowel issues.
” Dating and sex are complicated under the best of circumstances.
If you’re living with a disability, the obstacles and challenges extend far beyond the “does-he-like-me?
Still, that confidence didn’t translate to her day-to-day life outside the pool.Thanks to her mother, who had always been open and positive about sex, Trace applied at Venus Envy when she was 22 and was hired.Around the same time, she began masturbating more and figuring out what worked for her body.For years after Kaleigh Trace, 30, sustained an incomplete spinal cord injury at age 9–which landed her in a wheelchair and affected her mobility, sensation, and bladder control–she received absolutely zero information about sex.“There wasn’t a lot of [sex ed], especially in rural Canada.
Because she is missing her leg, she also has only half a bum and half a pelvis, and she was worried that her vagina was disfigured—she’d never compared hers to anyone else’s.