Related: The New America: Study Examines Modern Multiracial Identies“One potential explanation of these preferences is that contemporary media promotes certain mixed-race appearances as chic, fashionable, or post-racial,” suggested Lin, “while simultaneously portrays mono-racial Asians as being passive, sly, effeminate, and nerdy.”Researchers did not have enough data to study reactions to multiracial Asian Americans who were also Hispanic or also African American.
And now with the proliferation of online dating apps and websites, it can be even more daunting.
Just because they receive the most responses online does not mean those responses are pleasant or flattering. From the racist to the downright lewd, it’s easy for an Asian woman looking for a serious relationship to get discouraged and want to delete their profile forever.
The role of subservient woman seems to be tied exclusively to Asians, and their “exotic” status tends to turn them into hyper-sexualized beings among other ethnicities.
However, that number becomes even more dismal for Asian men.While there are different theories for the reasoning, the clients I work with all agree with the premise of not being able to fit the hyper-masculine culture perpetuated by Western society.Sure some may work out, hit the weights and look strong but they lament that women do judge a book by its cover.And two, Asian men are on the complete opposite side of the spectrum.Statistically, this is true.¹ However, it’s not as simple as saying Asian women have it easy and Asian men haven’t got a chance. Read on for common concerns regarding Asian online dating and what can be done to help make it better.
And there are certain things that can be done to turn the odds more favorably, namely by creating a great profile and learning what kinds of messages women are more likely to respond to.