If I was going to do something stupid, it wouldn't matter if I had their permission or not. He sounds like a good kid, with a good head on his shoulders...be careful about implying otherwise. I was really impressed with the rules of one family I grew up with. I can assure you there were some girls close by ;) My son is also a new 13 yr old..looks about 16 though!Better that they allow it with their guidance (and getting to know him) than restrict it and be kept in the dark. He attend with at least 2 other "couples" that you and your husband have met. There were no restrictions on what age you could have boy friends or girlfriends, but they were only allowed to spend time together as part of the other person's family functions until age 16. I thought this was great because it forced them to get to know one anothers families. I can't imagine they can get into any trouble getting dropped off at the movies. He has a girlfriend who is a yr older (so she is actually my daughters age and they are in classes together.) I do let them hang out..the Y, they have hung out here at my house w/someone else always around.So, I guess my answer is, I have never had a certain age requirement, more of a comfort level.Luckily my kids have never challenged me on it, though if my youngest wanted to go out alone with a boy I would say no, and probably tell her not until she's 16. Error Banner.fade_out.modal_overlay.modal_overlay .modal_wrapper.modal_overlay [email protected](max-width:630px)@media(max-width:630px).modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close.modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close:before.modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close:before.modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close:before.modal_overlay .modal_fixed_close:hover:before. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_input. Selector .selector_input_interaction .selector_spinner. Selector .selector_results_container.form_buttons.form_buttons a.form_buttons input[type='submit'].form_buttons .submit_button.form_buttons .submit_button.form_buttons .action_button. I would tell him to make it a group thing and drop them off. I go a step further also, when a group of friends go over another friends house, especially a girl .... He is not to go to anyone's home without a parent being home. (not that he's at that point yet, but it's never to early to teach them!My son has gf s but I would never allow him to be alone with her. I let my oldest children start dating when they were 16. ) I think you are doing fine..he wants to hang out w/ her badly enough, he's going to do it on your terms.
I told him the only way he would be allowed to go to the movies, is if his father or I went with him. So when he pulled that "card" on me - I said - ooh my word! I put it back on him - if everyone were jumping off the roof or a bridge - would you be doing it too? Yes, we have dropped our kids off at the movie theater (my girlfriend's son works there - so they really aren't alone) and picked them up afterwards - but it's always been a group of boys..mixed..his hormones seem to be a tad "More".... Group outings are fine and parental supervision is a must. they're 22 and 20 now, and beyond sensible rules about sleeping arrangements (sleepovers happened frequently but separate rooms, of course), we didn't have a ton of rules or micromanagement.
She's had one slip where she wasn't where she was supposed to be and I figured it out before she had the chance to tell me.
Part of the 16 yo rule for me is that I want them to have control over where they are with a driver's license. (And by date - I mean one on one going out as a couple dating.) And if, when he gets there, he doesn't want to - that's fine with me. I was older than 16 when I started dating and it was common and expected that one or more parents (and/or siblings) might come along to game/movie/restaurant/what ever.
The only time my older kids had real one on one dates was when they went to formal dances, and even then it was usually 3 or 4 couples going together.
The first time my son took a girl out on a real date he was a freshman in college.
i think it's very important at this age to let budding adults experience what it's like to be trusted as well as to be monitored. His parents picked us up and dropped us off at the movie theater.